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A Frank Discussion of Gay Anal on Big Brother

Monday, March 10th, 2008
Two cute guys too - I enjoyed the discussion, thought you might too. Anal cleanliness, the realities of occasional accidents, anal orgasms, and taking drugs up the ass. The good stuff starts about 3 minutes into the video. The beginning is nothing interesting.  Read More

Dan Savage on the “Blowjobs Cause Oral Cancer” news

Wednesday, May 16th, 2007
My Man Dan has some good info and news on the whole "oral sex = oral cancer" business... ""Researchers believe," reports New Scientist, "oral sex may transmit human papillomavirus (HPV), the virus implicated in the majority of cervical cancers," and the virus lodges in the throat, where it can cause cancer. Study subjects infected with HPV were 32 times more likely to develop throat cancer; folks who tested positive for one highly aggressive strain of the virus, HPV-16, were 58 times more likely to develop throat cancer. Smoking, previously believed to be the culprit behind most throat cancers, only triples a person's risk. But before we panic—it's… Read More

The Rockingest AIDS ad EVER!

Monday, May 14th, 2007
Tell me this isn't the most memorable condom and AIDS ad you have ever seen!  Read More

The Science of Gay Men in New York Times

Thursday, April 19th, 2007
Hi friends, I've been fighting bad bad bad with the boyfriend lately, and haven't had the time or the emotional energy to write. I hope you are all doing well. As usual, when I fight with He Who Must Not Be Named, it's incredibly exhausting, but the makeup sex is just plain INCREDIBLE. He's really cute when he's mad, too. Here's something interesting I read in the NYT, I have repeated the stuff we're interested in, about gay men, because not everybody has a NYT account... "When it comes to the matter of desire, evolution leaves little to chance. Human sexual behavior is not a free-form performance, biologists are finding, but is guided… Read More

Drinking green tea could help in the fight against HIV

Thursday, March 29th, 2007
I like to take green tea extracts several times a day - now there's possibly another reason to love green tea. The tests are only test tube studies - but still, take your green tea boys! Green tea 'may keep HIV at bay' "Scientists found a component called epigallocatechin gallate (EGCG) prevents HIV from binding to immune system cells by getting there first. Once EGCG has bound to immune system cells there is no room for HIV to take hold in its usual fashion. However, experts said the joint UK and US work, which appears in the Journal of Allergy and Clinical Immunology, was at a very… Read More

Crystal Meth and Gay Anal Sex

Sunday, March 18th, 2007
I'm one of those bad gay men that likes to _occasionally_ use a little methamphetamine... so I thought this article was interesting. Young gay men in New York rarely using crystal meth for sex "most of these men reported using the drug as a “treat”, twice a month or so. The same proportion of individuals said they used the drug during sex. However, only eight of the men reported first use of the drug in a sexual setting, with the majority of users saying that they took the drug in a club, bar or somebody's home. In addition, some men reported that… Read More

Getting Sore From The Make Up Sex

Wednesday, February 21st, 2007
What do you men do when you have been fucked so long and hard that you can't sit down? ;-} My beau and I are in that stage of a relationship where we have been fighting a lot, as we clarify our limits and our needs to each other. It's been miserable at times, as such things are, but as we all know one of the only benefits of lovers fighting is the make up sex, and we have been having a TON of it. But, he fucked me so hard the last couple of times that I'm very chafed and sore. He says to me that I deserve it, and that may be true, I've never denied that I can be a lot of trouble when it comes to love. I certainly don't mind it when he's doing… Read More

Single Gay Mans Guide To Anal Sex

Saturday, September 2nd, 2006
"Many of you may not feel comfortable with talking about anal hygiene or anal sex. The reality is that everyone, gay or straight is talking about and doing anal sex. Just today I received an email from my friend Jenny who had anal sex with a guy…two times. She did not enjoy it. My straight work colleagues are obsessed with anal sex…what does it feel like? Why do I enjoy it? Isn't it dirty?" This is a really great article that talks about one of the things that is rarely talked about - anal cleanliness in prepeation for anal sex. One of the things that has always secretly amused me, when I'm in a club, is the thought of jhow many of… Read More

Is Gay In The Genes Or the Heart?

Friday, January 20th, 2006
Is Being Gay In The Genes Or In The Heart? A while back, a few month's at least, I remember reading some articles that discussed some Italian scientists study that suggested a genetic explanation for being gay. Male gay at least, I'm not sure if it had anything to say about gay females. The idea was that certain women had an especially strong attraction to males, leading them to tend to produce more children than average. But, some of the male children they produced also would carry the gene for an especially intense attraction to males, and thus a predisposition to be gay. Despite the fact that the womans gay sons would tend to have less children… Read More

Thought’s On A Gay Man’s Love Life

Monday, December 5th, 2005
Well, it's true what they say. You can get used to anything. I finally starting to get used to the new regime at work, the "war culture" of the new company, and the things I have been having to do to keep my job. The people who were above me are gone, a lot of the old staff are gone, a lot of the output and analysis have been outsourced, and so far it looks like they are keeping me for the time being. They are putting me thru various training sessions, for which I have to travel about 400 miles and spend a few days living in a hotel, and they are paying for it all, which I doubt they would do if I was close to getting the axe. Hey, I realize… Read More